As you may or may not know, K whisked me off to Paris a couple weeks ago to propose. I have to say, the whole thing still feels like a dream. It was a really magical moment, everything I could have imagined and more.
These past few weeks after our engagement, I have really been reflecting on our relationship and what makes a strong and healthy relationship. In general, when you first start getting to know someone, your relationship is only surface level deep. You make a conscious effort to look nice when you see them, and you try to do and say all the right things. It makes sense, you don't know this person very well at this point and may not be comfortable being your complete true self around them yet. K and I have known each other for a very long time. When we first met we had an instant connection which made me feel like I had already known him for years. I think that time is not always an accurate measurement of how deep your relationship is with someone. You could know someone for years and years but still have a very superficial relationship.
When you meet someone you have a serious connection with, your relationship becomes deeper than surface level really quickly. For me, this helped me to realize that nothing I ever experienced before was real (the saying "when you know, you just know" comes to mind here). Real relationships challenge you in a good way, and they help you grow both individually and together as a couple. You accept each other's weaknesses (because everyone has them) and work on them together. You put ego aside and you learn to compromise and trust each other. Most importantly, in a true relationship there are no expectations. Even the best partners are not mind readers, and you have to make your desires known through clear communication.
K- you not only make me a better person, you have helped me in more ways than you even know. We went from two kids in school not having any idea of what we wanted to do with our lives to now working together towards creating our dream life. Thank you for being the biggest supporter of my goals and aspirations. You push me and inspire me to work harder and dream bigger each and everyday. You are my best friend, soulmate, confidant, business partner and your love means the world to me.